First Pregnancy

Yang ditunggu-tunggu akhirnya datang juga.. Usia pernikahan saya saat ini adalah 11 bulan, dan di 11 bulan ini udah banyak banget yang ketar-ketir kok saya belum hamil juga, sementara teman-teman yang menikah setelah saya sudah pada hamil semua, bahkan 2 orang sudah melahirkan. Padahal saya dan suami mah nyantai aja, tapi orang-orang disekitar kita yang ngga nyantai.

Bulan lalu saya dibawa mamih ke dokter kandungan yang emang udah ngurusin saya dari lama karena saya sempat punya kista yang diameternya sudah 5cm (tapi sekarang kista tersebut sudah hilang). Dokter kandungan saya namanya Dr. Rianda Wong, SpOG di RS Omni International Alam Sutera. Dr. Rianda ini sangat baik, selalu menjelaskan dengan bahasa yang mudah dimengerti dengan sejelas-jelasnya, bahkan tiap kali konsul bisa lamaaa banget diruangan kosulnya, karena beliau ingin pasiennya benar-benar mengerti. Saat itu saya diajak ke Dr Rianda karena orang tua saya khawatir dengan keadaan saya yang belum juga hamil saat itu. Setelah diperiksa ini itu, tidak ada yang salah dengan saya, semuanya normal. Lalu saya diajarkan untuk menghitung masa subur. Saya kesulitan disini karena tanggal haid saya yang tidak teratur.

Singkat cerita, beberapa hari setelah itu suami saya tiba-tiba kasih surprise! Dia datang pulang dari Singapore tanpa bilang-bilang dulu. Setelah 10 hari suami saya di Jakarta, dia pulang kembali ke Singapore dan dua hari kemudian saya menyusul ke Singapore dan menghabiskan waktu 9 hari disana. Saya heran, kok saya nggak haid juga, sudah telat 8 hari. Sampai akhirnya saya pulang, di waktu telat haid hari ke 16, saya coba pakai test pack namun hasilnya (seperti biasa) negatif. Aaahh yasudahlah, kan sudah biasa haid ngga teratur, jadi ngga usah ngarep-ngarep hamil deh. sampai di telat haid hari ke 22, saya masih juga penasaran kok lama amat ya telatnya, dan malamnya payudara saya terasa sangat kencang, ada mual tapi tidak sampai muntah. Pagi harinya saya memutuskan untuk test-pack lagi, dan AMAZING! Garisnya ada duaa!! Garis yang pertama merah tebal, namun garis yang kedua, merah lebih tipis. Saya langsung nangis seketika melihat hasil test-pack tersebut secara ngga pernah dapet 2 garis hehe, langsung ajak suami untuk skype dan ceritaaa sambil nangis seneng.

Tidak mau menunggu lama, hari itu juga saya mencari dokter obsgyn yang praktek. Susahnyaaa, karna kebetulan itu adalah hari minggu. Akhirnya saya bertemu dengan Dr Raden Wawan SpOG di RS Awal Bros Tangerang. Setelah masuk ruang konsultasi, sempat bercerita sedikit lalu dokter langsung mengajak untuk USG.

"Mana ya.." Sambil geser-geser alat USG di perut. "Nggak kelihatan apa apa nih, Gia"

"Masa sih dok? :( Coba lihat lagi, tadi pagi kan udah 2 garisnya di testpack. Masa masih ngga hamil juga.. hikss" Sedihnyaa ngga ada dua.

"Mau USG transvaginal ngga? Siapa tahu kelihatan nanti.. Nggak sakit kok.."

"Takut dok.. Tapi ya bolehlahh buat mastiin" Apapun deh pokoknya pengen lihat isi si perut ini.

Lalu si suster memasukan alat USG Transvaginal kedalam vagina. Awalnya rasanya takut, tapi demi melihat si janin bayi, rela deh.. Dan ternyata ngga terlalu sakit kok..

"Mana yaa, kok ngga kelihatan juga" Sambil muter-muterin si alat.

"Dok..... :(" Mulai sedih..

"Naaahh, ada nihhh.. Tuhh akhirnya kelihatan juga. Saya print yaa hasil USG nya.." Akhirnya ketemu juga. Yeaaayy! Senengnya bukan main, mamih langsung nangis ditempat saking senangnya :')

Lalu dokternya ngasih 3 macam vitamin untuk menambah darah dan kalsium.

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Keesokan harinya.. Karena nggak biasa dengan dokter obsgyn yang kemarin, saya memeriksakan lagi kandungan saya ke Dr Rianda Wong SpOG di RS Omni International Alam Sutera. Cerita panjang sama Dokter Rianda, lalu beliau kaget..

"Kamu USG Transvaginal?? Ya ampunn.. kok berani-beraninya?" Si Dokter sambil geleng-geleng kepala.

Saya pun jadi takut, "Hah? Emang kenapa dok? Gak boleh??"

"Banyak kasus pada rahim sensitif yang sampai menimbulkan flek dan membahayakan janin karna usia kandungan masih sangat muda dan rawan. Baiknya ditunggu saja, tidak perlu USG Transvaginal, karena dengan adanya 2 garis di hasil testpack sudah menunjukan Gia hamil."

Saya jadi tegang takut kenapa-kenapa gara-gara transvaginal kemarin, tapi dokter ngeyakinin insyaAllah ngga akan kenapa-kenapa. Saya kembali di USG lagi, tapi kali ini dari perut dan si dede janin nya kelihataaan! Ya Tuhan... This is the best scenery...

Setelah selesai USG dan konsultasi, dokter memberi saya 3 macam obat.. Untuk penguat kandungan, asam folat, dan zinc. Obat yang dari Dr Wawan kemarin katanya jangan diminum dulu, karena belum perlu, yang diperluin saat ini cuma penguat kandungan dan asam folat.

Sekian dulu cerita-cerita tentang awal kehamilannya, nanti dilanjut lagi di-posting berikutnya.. Goodluck! ;)

PS: Usia kandungan saat ini 8 minggu :)

Hello Again

Hai blogs..
Udah lama banget nggak update bahkan buka-buka blog ini. Banyak banget yang mau ditulis tapi kalau ditulis semuanya, kayaknya bakal panjang banget. Sebelum nulis ini, saya baca-baca blog ini dari first post sampe the last post, rasanya senang. Saya seperti dibawa memori ke 1 tahun lalu.. Dan senang sekali! Bulan depan saya dan suami akan menginjak usia satu tahun pernikahan. Pengen banget ngerayain kecil-kecilan berdua suami, or at least bisa sama-sama di hari tersebut having quality time just the two of us, tapi kayaknya nggak bisa karena saya di Jakarta dan suami di Singapore masih sekolah. 6hari setelah hari anniversary, suami saya berulang tahun tapi ya sepertinya juga saya tidak bisa berada disana untuk merayakan ini. Sedih tapi kata suami, saya ngga boleh manja-manja. Baiklah, yang penting doa dariku nggak pernah putus walaupun kita jauhan..

Long Distance Marriage

Me and Gilang are a newlywed who separate temporarily because of our school is in different countries. Gilang in Singapore while I'm in Indonesia. At this time (11pm) is the most difficult time for me. Its a bed time! You know, Gilang always give his hand to base my head every bed and I aaalways hug him tight until I fall asleep. Skype? We are not everyday-user of skype because Gilang is too busy with his assignment. and I have to understand.

KEY? Key for long distance marriage is..

1. Communication. Keep it open on a daily basis. Just simply send text messages if you cant make a video call. Or try to send short video instead of video call :)
2. Be honest about your concerns and fears about your separation.
3. Understanding. Try to understand partner's mood.
4. Create a comfortable atmosphere while communicating.
5. Support each other.
6. Pray for each other.
7. Surprise each other once in a while with a phone call.
8. Plan the next honeymoon :D

My All Time Favorite :')

P.S.: miss u all the time, Gilang Adi :')

Reasons Why I Married My Husband

1. He has a relationship with God,
2. He makes me feel safe. He always let me walk on the inside of the sidewalk,
3. He has excellent communication skills,
4. He is a family man and really love his mom, I want to have a son like him, 
5. He is the keeper of my secrets and one of my favorite shopping buddies,
6. He is my best friend. I can tell him anything and he’ll be there to share in my joy and my sadness,
7. I respect him. Simply because he respect me too.
8. He won’t let me carry the heavier groceries,
9. He is good at sport,
10. He holds my hand when we cross the street,
11. He always gives his arm to base my head every bed,
12. He makes me feel beautiful,
13. He knows how to dress,
14. I always feel thankful that he’s in my life. I’m not sure he knows I do this, but sometimes when he is sleeping I place my hand on his head and pray and of course enjoy his  face,
15. He knows how to be silly. My husband is usually a very serious and professional person. He enjoys discussing the economy and politics (for me, its very boring!). There are those times though when we’ll spend the entire day just being silly. We’ll joke around with each other most of the day, say and do silly things,
16. He drive me around to many different stores and boutiques just to find one denim skirt for me even he’s busy and tired :p

The Most Supportive Man

I'm in Singapore since last sunday . Every day here is always so much fun! I'm sure, it's because of my husband is around! So, This morning we woke up at 10a.m. Gilang went to multi hall to met his friends for group discussion while I just stayed in bed because I felt unwell. After Gilang came back home, I was still laying in bed and not showered yet. He came to me, hugged me, kissed me, took care of me, cheer me up. I was .... suddenly feeling good. I asked him, "do u want some brunch?" and i cooked spaghetti for him. Happiness is simple as simple as Gilang eat my cooking :")

After brunch, Gilang continue his discussion with his friends at the living room while I was in bedroom and got phone call from femina magazine. They said, I was called to do a photo shoot on Tuesday. I told that to Gilang "hon, I was called by femina magazine for photo shoot on Tuesday and I need bla bla bla bla." He was grinning and whispered me, "its okay hon, I'll support you.. congrats!" That's very sweet of you... hehe.. :")

At night we went to orchard for dinner and bought something we (me actually) need. On the way home, we talked about something I have to be done but I haven't finish it yet. Gilang was a bit angry to me :(

And now, we're home. I'm in the bedroom (write this blog) and Gilang have discussion again at the living room. And.... In the middle of discussion!! (NOW!) He JUST came to me and said, "I'm sorry if I was angry, it's just for a better you" then he gives me a hugs and kisses.

For me, he is amazing. He always supports me, even when I'm down. Fyi, my trip to Singapore now is because I felt very down, and no one can handle me even myself. Once I arrived in singapore, I told everything to Gilang and he gave me some advice, he cheer me up, he show me how to look the problem in a good perspective, in a bigger picture, and how to face it in a very mature way..

Thanks hon.. Thank you for your support, Thank you for your patience, Thank you for a good communication, Thank you for everything :") 

Lessons From A Newlyweds

I've been married for three months and now am about to share about married things. Me and Gilang, We are both learning, every day, how to live with each other, how to speak to each other, how to support each other, and how to respect each other. And, while it’s amazing, it’s hard work. And sometimes, I just don’t want to do it. But we continue on because we value each other, we value our relationship, and we value personal growth in ourselves. Because we know what we’re working for. We love each other through those hard moments, the selfish moments, because that’s what we are choosing to do.

Communication
Good communication will make the relationship better, while poor communication can only worsen the situation. Often we can not hold back our emotions, so that the words that came out of our mouths just a moment of emotion. Therefore we must understand each other. Understand how to communicate well, understand the feelings and partner's mood. I am thankful and blessed to have a husband who is very understanding. Very understands me, very understand how to communicate well, teach me how to communicate in a mature way. When we have a disagreement we don’t scream at each other and throw things. Rather, we talk about it and work through it together as a team. I’m open to him speaking into my life, and the same is true of him. Even if you or your spouse aren’t the best communicators, you can learn to communicate well. The first steps to learning are humbling yourself and admitting that there is room to grow in this area.

Patience
Patience is key. Cultivate it, nurture it! When you’re merging two lives, two different habits, two different pasts, etc. You have to be patient to each other and with yourselves.Think about ways to show your partner patience, and learn to really truly listen with an open mind.

Respect
When we are mad at each other or feeling emotionally hurt, we give the other some space and then talk it through. first, my normal anger default would be to yell and showing scowl face. But even when I am tempted to do that now, I hold my tongue. Why? Because my husband never yells or says mean things to me so I want to show him at least the same amount of respect that he shows me. If you want to show respect for your spouse, you have to grow up. Take name-calling and spiteful behavior out of the equation. Remember, respect is a choice.

Honesty 
Seek after what is true. When you are confused, or frustrated, or feel misunderstood, don’t automatically assume that your partners intention was to hurt you. Always assume the best in each other. We’ve discovered that so many of the little issues we have are typically due to one of us (hmmm, me) overreacting, or making false assumptions before talking about the situation together. Use that patience you’re cultivating to calm yourself down (and bite your tongue) and stop to consider what you know to be true about your spouse before anything else.

Each person has a different experience. That was my experience and lessons that can be taken for 3 months I have a husband. Hmmm, and do not forget to put your spouse in the best position in the public (and private)! It’s awkward when i hear someone say something embarrassing about their spouse in public, even if they are “joking.” Often their spouse is not present but sometimes they are standing right next to them. This can only bring harm to a marriage. Make it a point to be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader…to everyone! This extends to family life as well. Compliment your spouse in front of your kids, to your extended family, to your friends. When you are alone together, regularly tell your spouse how special they are. This goes a long way in showing love and respect and in bolstering your relationship to withstand difficult times.